幸福快樂的每一天

You can’t hurry love, at least that’s what the songwriters say. Well some people want to disagree. For them there’s the new phenomenon of speed dating.

If your quest for love has so far proved fruitless and you feel that time is running out - how about spending a night speed dating? You could meet a dozen potential matches and still get home in time to peruse the personals before bed.
The clock is ticking. Speed dating means you only spend a few minutes with each of your dates, so every second counts. It works like this: an equal number of men and women meet at a café, pair up and chat for a predetermined number of minutes, then when a bell rings it’s time to move on to your next mini-date.

A grown up version of musical chairs? Well speed daters say it saves time and provides a safer way to meet - no more waiting for the evening to end when you’ve worked out in the first couple of minutes that your date’s a dud.

After you’ve speed-dated everyone in the room it’s time to come up with your wish-list. You write down who’s hot and who’s not and if your top picks feel the same about you then the organisers will pass on contact details.

 The appeal is that you can meet a lot of people very quickly, which traditionally could have meant months of dating. It is also in some ways less demoralising than regularly trawling singles columns or dating websites.

Speed dating, unsurprisingly, comes from the States. It started in January 1999 as a scheme for L.A. Jewish singles to meet. It quickly broke out of that community and has become the hippest way to look for love.

David, a speed dater from the South East, says, “I think it’s for those people who are cash rich time poor. It’s a very good way of meeting a large number of the opposite sex in a fun environment and in a condensed period of time. I would definitely do it again and encourage a friend of either sex to come along and give it a whirl”.

Luci, another speed dater, says, “It’s a great way to meet new people but a gamble as to whether you’re going to meet anyone”.

However efficiency isn’t everything. If your life means that you find it difficult to devote time to finding love, will you have enough time to nurture love if you find it?

Speed Dating - The Rules

Respect the bell - when it’s time to move on, move on.

Be polite.

Don’t ask judgmental questions about age, occupation or where your date lives.

Don’t exchange phone numbers.

Meet everyone - No ducking out to avoid an unlikely prospect.
 
If speed dating represents the modern solution for the “cash rich; time poor” to find love, does it also mark the death of romance, or just another evolutionary step in human courtship?

Speed dating may be the new way to meet, but after that first date it’s down to more traditional methods of dating to ensure love blossoms.

Then it comes down to care, consideration and time. The challenge is whether speed daters can find time for another in their busy schedules.

Perhaps there will be a growth in speed relationships where you don’t ever to have to spend more than a few minutes at a time with your “partner”.

Rate your date! If it goes well for both of you romance could be round the corner.

They are out there, and they are looking for you. They know that kids spend a lot of time on the Internet and the phone. They also know that

when your mind is on your IMs, text messages, and phone conversations with friends, you aren’t thinking about who else might be watching and

listening. The offenders listed here are just a few of the kinds of crooks  who would love to know you better.

If you think that you aren’t giving away anything important, think again. Identity thieves may know more than you realize. With your

unsuspecting help, they can learn even more. Your Social Security Number (SSN) and a few other key facts are all a thief needs to steal your

good name—and leave you stuck with a criminal record or staggering debts.

That is what happened to Zach Friesen. At 17, he applied for a job. The prospective employer did a credit check. Only then did Zach find out that

he was tens of thousands of dollars in debt.

When Zach was only seven, someone using his identity had bought a $40,000 houseboat, among other things. Zach himself was innocent of

wrongdoing, but his record made him look irresponsible, even criminal. The long-gone thief was never caught, so, Zach has to stay in a debtor till

the identity theft get caught.

Kids make great targets because the younger the victim, the more time the thief is likely to have before anyone becomes suspicious. Kids get an

SSN at birth but rarely use it until applying for a job at 16 or college at 18. Only then—like Zach Friesen—do they discover problems.

That is why so many ID thefts are being reported by people aged 18 to 29. For many of those victims, someone had been misusing their identity

for years—in some cases, a decade or more.

Strangers are not the only people who saddle  kids with debt. “More frequently, it is a family member who has stolen a kid’s identity,” Linda Foley

said. Foley is executive  director and co-founder of the Identity Theft Resource Center (ITRC).“I know of an 8-year-old girl who told her mother

that she had seen her father with a credit card in her name,” said Foley. “The mother said, ‘Oh, it must have been your library card.’ When the girl

was 11, she found a bill in her name. That convinced her mother.” But by then, the girl’s record was burdened with three years’ worth of debt.
You can do a lot to protect yourself—and your family—from ID theft. Remember our DOs and DON’Ts!

-DO keep personal information private. “Remember: You do not know who is reading your blogs or personal profiles online,” said Foley. “They

are strangers—and may not be who they say they are.”

-DON’T download “free” software or open e-mail attachments from unreliable sources. They could install spyware or Web crawlers  on your

computer.

-DO be suspicious if bills or “preapproved” credit-card offers arrive in your name. Ask a parent or other responsible adult to make sure that

someone hasn’t set up accounts in your name.

-DON’T ever give anyone credit-card or bank-account information over the telephone, unless your parents have authorized it.

-DO leave your Social Security card at home—and, said Foley,“Never give out your SSN or that of any family member.”
 
-DON’T get caught off guard! Find out how else you can protect yourself and loved ones.
 

心在水中。水是什麽呢？水就是關係。關係是什麽呢？關係就是我們和萬物之間密不可分的羈絆。它們如絲百轉千回，環繞著我們，滋潤著我們，營養著我們，推動著我們。同時也制約著我們，束縛著我們，纏繞著我們。水太少了，心靈就會成為酷日下的撒哈拉。水太多了，堤壩潰塌，如同2005年夏天的新奧爾良，心也會淹得兩眼翻白。

人生所有的問題，都是關係的問題。在所有的關係之中，你和你自己的關係最為重要。它是關係的總臍帶。如果你處理不好和自我的關係，你的一生就不得安寧和幸福。你可以成功，但沒有快樂。你可以有家庭，但缺乏溫暖。你可以有孩子但，難以交流。你可以姹紫嫣紅賓朋滿座，但卻不曾有高山流水患難之交。

你會大聲地埋怨這個世界，殊不知症結就在你自己身上。

你愛自己嗎？？如果你不愛自己，你怎麽有能力去愛他人？愛自己是最簡單也是最複雜的事情。它不需要任何成本，卻需要一顆無畏的靈魂。我們每個人都是不完滿，愛一個不完滿的自己是勇敢者的行為。

處理好了和自己的關係，你才有精力和智慧去研究你的人際關係，去和大自然和諧相處。如果你被自己搞得焦頭爛額，就像一個五內俱空的病人，哪裏還有多餘的熱血去濡養他人！

在水中自由遨遊，閒暇的時候掙脫一切羈絆，到岸上享受晨風拂面，然後，一個華麗的俯沖，重新潛入關係之水，做一條魚在波濤下微笑。